Israel – The spiritual leader of the Shas party, Rabbi Ovadia Yosef, has declared in latest set of religious rulings that Jews who donate their bodies to science or commit suicide do not deserve to be mourned in the traditional Jewish way.
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Rabbi Yosef published a new volume in his well-known series of books under the title of Chazon Ovadia, which contains laws concerning Shabbat, medicine, burial rituals, holidays and other topics.
In the new volume, Rabbi Ovadia rules on topics focusing around mourning and burial practices relating to various irregular cases that go against the traditional Jewish law, such as donating one’s organs, cremation, and suicide.
“He who donates his body to science, to have his organs dissected, even though his intention is to advance scientific research, he is committing a serious offense, and might be relinquishing the chance of resurrection of his soul and body, and therefore we must not mourn his death,” Rabbi Ovadia wrote.
Regarding organ donations, Rabbi Ovadia has stated in the past that it is permitted and even desired as it saves lives.
Along these lines, Rabbi Ovadia was asked what should happen in the event that a Jewish person’s will states that he wishes to be cremated, to which he responded that the will should be breached.
“This request should not be adhered to, as it is prohibited by the holy Torah,” ruled Rabbi Yosef. “He who requests to be cremated has kept his soul in limbo? and it is equivalent to sinning against the Ten Commandments and the entire Torah. Therefore his request should not be granted,” Rabbi Ovadia said.
Rabbi Yosef delivered his rulings on these issues in response to questions posed by people facing these actual dilemmas. Another example of a question brought before the rabbi – who is considered an authority on Jewish law – was brought forth by a man, who wanted to know what to do after one of his parents requested in a will that he not say kaddish (the prayer for the dead) over the second parent.
“If the mother dies and she states in her will that the son should not say kaddish over the father, then the son should not obey the will. However, if the father writes in his will that he wants the son to refraim from saying the prayer over the mother, then the son should adhere to his wish,” wrote Yosef.
The rabbi stressed, however, that if the father’s request was based on his personal feelings towards the mother, then the request “should not be fulfilled.”
On a different case relating to the prayer for the dead, Rabbi Ovadia ruled: “In the case of an adopted son, even though he is not required to mourn a deceased parent according to Jewish law, he is required to say the prayer for the rising of their souls, he must respect them in their lives and in their deaths, in recognition of the good deeds they did that brought him to where he is today.”
Rabbi Ovadia deals also with the delicate subject of suicide in Judaism, and determines a severe ruling that those who take their own lives should not be mourned – without exception.
“Even if a person severely suffers and is poor he cannot take his own life, and must accept his pain with love,” Yosef wrote, adding that this was relevant “especially to the young generation that have transgressed and learned from the actions of the gentiles in Europe, who lose themselves over every minor thing, because they do not believe in the untimely, supporting, rushing and healing Hashem [God].
How do you know who attempted to take their life but who did not do teshuva in the last seconds and wanted to still cling to life, but were unable to stop the act set in motion? This is an important directive so as to discourage suicide, but it is not our place to judge. People still need to mourn. The Jewish way of mourning is a blessing, a gift, for the living.
“If the mother dies and she states in her will that the son should not say kaddish over the father, then the son should not obey the will. However, if the father writes in his will that he wants the son to refraim from saying the prayer over the mother, then the son should adhere to his wish,” wrote Yosef.”
What is the reason for this? I’m not going to jump to cry misogyny until I know, but this sounds awfully like it..
Take everything from Haaretz with a grain of salt. Their bias is neither small nor concealed.
Why is it rishus? Milhouse is just stating what the halacha is. It wasn’t his personal opinion.
How about we settle posts six and seven’s dispute by taking Rabbi Ovadiah’s kulah, on thinking that if the prohibition by the father was influenced by a personal bias then it is invalid, and apply it as liberally as possible, as we do with suicide?
I now know what Ha’aretz says about Rav Yossef. I wonder what Rav Yossef shlita himself says.
One thing is for sure, they are not the same thing.
What possible reason? Have you never heard of the mitzvah of Kibbud Av? Isn’t that a reason? Do you call obeying the Torah “rishus sdom”?!
If the father commanded him not to say kaddish, then it depends whether the command was contrary to the Torah. If the father was motivated by unjustified hatred of the mother, then he was transgressing the pasuk לא תשנא את אחיך בלבבך, and it’s a clear din in Shulchon Oruch (YD 240:16) not to obey him. But if that is not the case, then what reason is there NOT to obey him?
It is possible, however, that Haaretz got the entire story backwards. The Bet Yosef (surely you would not accuse him of “rishus sdom”) discusses the case of a dead mother who specifically asked that her son say kaddish for her, but the living father objects. The Bet Yosef paskens (YD 376) that the son should NOT say kaddish, but in the reverse case, where a living mother objects to the son saying kaddish for the dead father, he should say it anyway. The Ramo in YD 376:4 paskens otherwise; for further discussion see Pischei Teshuva YD 240:11 and 240:14 and Shu”t R Akiva Eiger #68 . It is obvious that R Ovadiah would pasken like the Bet Yosef.
There is a famous story when Reb Moishe Feinstein zt”l, as a young Rav in Russia, was posed a question by the Chevra Kadisha regarding whether to honour the wishes of a known local moser who had for years caused grief to individuals and the public by telling on them to the authorities and on his deathbed requested that he be buried outside the beis hakvaros like a goy, in shame, to at least partially atone for his behaviour which he now regretted.
Reb Moishe paskened that a person is not bal habos over his body after his death and the chevra may not accommodate his request. The Chevra felt this was a very harsh p’sak as it denied the person a kapora of sorts, but Reb Moishe was very firm that halocha is halocha
A few days after the kevura the police appeared and, after opening his kever, appeared surprised. When challenged by the caretaker, they were told that the niftar had written to them before his death informing them that the kehilla intends to take revenge on him and will bury him in a shameful manner and that they should take the kehilla task on it upon establishing this
Who are we to judge, or understand, the siyatta dishmaya of strict halocha!
Kaddish is a minhag. Kibud Av is halacha.
All of this is interesting if both sides of the machlokes are in agreement to resolve the matter in accordance with daas torah. However, in many of these cases, there is a wife who may not be frumme or a lawyer who was designated as the niftar’s executor who could care less about what rav yosef said or rav moshe’s psak and will simply have the secular courts resolve the matter. In that case, halacha will always be trumped by the legal will of the niftar.
Milhouse, how did Haaretz get the story backwards? Sounds like R. Yosef’s psak comes right out of the Beis Yosef.
One problem with this:
“It’s very simple. It’s an open din in shulchan aruch that when kibbud of the two parents comes into conflict, kibud av wins out. The mother is obligated to honour her husband, and she certainly can’t exempt her son from his obligation, so she had no right to tell him not to say kaddish. The father has no such reciprocal obligation.”
If the marriage terminates, then the mother’s obligation to honor the father ceases. For example, if the parents got divorced, then we do not say that kibbud av wins out over kibbud em, since the mother in that case does not owe any kavod to the father.
One would think that death, like divorce, terminates the wife’s duty to honor the husband. (Perhaps this is the view of the Rema.)