Family Says Government Won’t Allow ‘Hashem Yikom Damo’ on Charedi Soldier’s Tombstone

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Family and friends of Israeli soldier Captain Israel Yudkin attend his funeral at the Mount Herzl Military Cemetery in Jerusalem on May 23, 2024. He fell in battle in the Gaza Strip. Photo by Chaim Goldberg/Flash90 *** Local Caption *** הר הרצל לוויה חרבות ברזל מלחמה הלוויה סרן ישראל יודקין ז"ל

ISRAEL (VINnews) — The family of Yisrael Yudkin HY’D, a Charedi soldier who was tragically killed in Gaza, says that the government is refusing to allow the words “Hashem Yikom Damo” (‘Hashem shall avenge his blood’) to be placed on his tombstone. The soldier’s brother also says that the IDF has no basic infrastructure for Charedi soldiers and does not treat them with respect.

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The family is scheduled to visit Yisrael’s grave this week at the military cemetery on Har Herzl for the Hakamas Matzeiva ceremony (placing of the headstone). They have appealed to the Defense Ministry to allow the all-important religious phrase to be engraved.

In an emotional Channel 14 television interview, Yisrael’s brother Dubi said, “It is greatly disturbing us as a family that on Thursday, we must submit the wording of the headstone to the Ministry of Defense and my mother has asked that the words ‘G-d shall revenge his blood’ be written on his tombstone.”

Chief Sergeant First Class Gideon Chay DeRowe, Captain Yisrael Yudkin, Staff Sergeant Eliyahau Haim Emsallem (Yisrael is on the far right)

“This is the wording that Charedi people write on their gravestones. The Ministry of Defense does not approve the word “Hashem”, nor the root of the word “Yinkom,” because revenge is forbidden, so the Ministry of Defense has not approved this.”

He added: “If you don’t respect the fallen Charedi soldiers, then how do you want me to stay in the army? If you don’t respect my brother who fell during his service, why should I respect you at all?

“We’re talking about drafting, we’re talking about Charedim. The army is not built to take in Charedim, it has no infrastructure for that. I’m not talking about Torah lessons, about mikvahs, about gender bases, I’m talking about weapons, about shoes.”

“I’m talking about a Charedi soldier who is killed, the family wants it to be written, G-d will avenge his blood,’ on the tombstone. It’s quite simple, it’s a simple request from my parents, and that’s what will show him respect. He grew up as a Charedi, he was killed in the Charedi regiment. They want these words to be written on the tombstone, so they come to the Ministry of Defense but they say, ‘No we are not approving these words,” he said.

Captain Yisrael Yudkin from Kfar Chabad was tragically killed in a Hamas sniper attack in Beit Hanoun in May.

According to the COLLive website: “Yisrael was known for his good and kind heart, his friends said. He was planning to bring meat from Kfar Chabad to make a barbecue for his fellow IDF soldiers on Lag B’Omer, they said. He loved to help everyone, and was a Commander in his unit who had a great love for Israel.”


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Zvi TUSK
Zvi TUSK
1 month ago

השם ינקום דמו

Sandy Peters
Sandy Peters
29 days ago

As a Jewish American, I think it’s terrible that the gov won’t allow what a Chareidi custom is for someone murdered by the enemy, on their gravestones!!! He died for Israel, Israel should do what his family wants!!! May his memory be a blessing. AM YISRAEL CHAI!️

Anonymous
Anonymous
1 month ago

Do they have the option of burying in a non-military cemetery ?

Mendel
Mendel
1 month ago

It isn’t a Chareidi custom to write Hayad with reference to a Jew who was killed etc. it is a universal and most basic Jewish way and Torah way of expressing any mention of him or her.

Tsvi Kukenheim
Tsvi Kukenheim
29 days ago

It is inconceivable that a so-called Jewish State in Eretz Ysrael forbids the parents of a fallen Jewish soldier to write on his grave stone: ” Hashem mikom Damo. ” in Hebrew. This is completely unacceptable!
Those so-called Israelis should be expelled from the JEWISH state of Israel as they have nothing in common with the Jewish people.

Lavrenty
Lavrenty
1 month ago

This is why the frum don’t serve in the zionists army

Brilliant Disguise
Brilliant Disguise
29 days ago

When a soldier is killed by friendly fire G-d forbid, they will not write ‘HaShem
yinakem Damo’ so it is an established policy to not write it in every case.

Saul
Saul
29 days ago

This was mentioned in this shiur: https://www.torahanytime.com/#/lectures?v=304908

Seichel
Seichel
29 days ago

You know if Idf feels like doing an autopsy they consult with absolutely no one. And they have guns go fight with them over it. Sad

lazy-boy
lazy-boy
28 days ago

When we charadim become the majority, we should force the seculars to daven and learn Torah or face fines or jail! Ha ha ha! How will they like that?

Eli
Eli
27 days ago

This is “all-important”??

Does not writing the wording you wish on the gravestone mean they are not ready to handle chareidim joining the army??

There is much work that needs to be done in order to accommodate and facilitate Chareidim joining the army. There is no need to look at every little thing and blow it out of proportion. This is wrong, but doesn’t give any excuse of not helping out klal yisroel and pitching in.

Mig
Mig
24 days ago

It’s very simple why the govt refuses this request. They don’t wish to invoke G-d’s vengeance on itself.

Tales
Tales
29 days ago

I don’t agree with it, but Mt Herzl cemetery has tombstone inscription rules much like many cemeteries even in the US , even frum ones.

Edith
Edith
29 days ago

Ask BiBi to allow these words on his stone to be written

Zelig
Zelig
1 month ago

Vin please correct the title and article.

It’s Yinkom not yikom.

Thank you.

C.B.D.
C.B.D.
29 days ago

Military cemetery, military rules. There are plenty of other places to bury someone if you don’t want to have the text approved.

Terry
Terry
1 month ago

I’m sure if the family paid for all relevant funeral costs then they can do as they please.