JERUSALEM (VINnews) — After nine years of marriage and two children, an Israeli couple reached a confrontation that brought both of them to lawyers. The wife is a kindergarten teacher, and the husband is a high school teacher. Over the years, they maintained a carefully managed lifestyle, running a household that included a mortgage and various expenses for their two young children.
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According to the wife, as she detailed to attorney Sharin Solan, she has been suffering for several years from her husband’s extreme stinginess, which has manifested itself in numerous incidents.
“There is real terror of stinginess, that’s the only way to describe our situation.”
The breaking point, she says, occurred ten days ago. The wife wanted to buy special Hanukkah doughnuts from the Roladin store for their children and for the home in general, and her husband exploded.
Rami Levi’s doughnuts
“How dare you spend so much money on a doughnut? From now on, don’t go anywhere where a doughnut costs more than five shekels. You’ll buy doughnuts at Rami Levy.”
The wife responded:
“I will only buy Roladin doughnuts because Hanukkah is celebrated once a year.”
At that point, a heated argument erupted between them, and their four-year-old daughter burst into tears and threatened to run away from home.
“We’ve reached a situation where he checks how much a loaf of bread costs, how much a kilo of mandarins costs, and calculates every single shekel that goes out. I feel like I’m living under economic terror. It’s worse than violence, it’s severe emotional abuse.”
Attorney Solan advised the woman to begin marital therapy.
“This is a known phenomenon, and it doesn’t always require divorce,” she told her client.
At the same time, the husband, who says he has also had enough of what he calls his wife’s ‘pathological spending’, is seeking to end the marriage. The couple was referred to a conflict resolution process, as is customary, and also to marital counseling.
A very very irresponsibly misleading headline. This issue is not about doughnuts. It’s obviously much bigger than that. For you to denigrate it to doughnuts is missing the point and very not helpful
In another 108 days they’ll be fighting about machine baked מצה V handbaked שמורה מצה.
In 158 days, they’ll be fighting about how fancy the cheesecake V simple cheesecake.
This isn’t a joke. There are Frum husbands who micro manage every penny their wife spends, causing tremendous sholom bayis problems & sometimes divorce.
Satire should note that it is satire. If this were true they should both be in a mental institution.
This narrative is a distortion of reality. It falsely mocks and shames the spouse who understands financial hardship and takes responsibility to ensure the family does not fall into debt. Framing responsibility as “stinginess” is manipulative and dishonest.
The real issue is not a lack of generosity, it is the burden of financial responsibility. One partner is carrying the weight of budgeting, restraint, and long-term survival, while the other is shielded from consequences. To twist that into a character flaw is not only ignorant, it is a profound disservice to readers.
Responsibility is not cruelty. Prudence is not abuse. Discipline is not moral failure. They are the very qualities that keep a family afloat. Shaming those qualities while excusing reckless behavior is an ethical failure, and those who promote such a narrative should be ashamed of themselves. I’d expect more responsible reporting from VIN..
Financial strain is real. When one spouse is not the breadwinner yet spends freely without regard for consequences, it creates an unfair and cruel imbalance. Twisting this reality or minimizing it ignores the real harm it causes.
END OF STORY….. It’s posted all over…. VICHTIG!!!
Vald Chazir!
They guy needs churro therapy and the wife needs some donut with a hole in the middle therapy…
I think this is about respecting each other , the husband is hurt more that he is being ignored, as if he is not important, all the wife should have done is discuss the possibility of buying the special donut just on this occasion, a calm discussion can have the toughest person change , and if not, no big deal learn to let go . Ofcoarse a person shouldn’t be a tyrant and sometimes give in as well.
Both require shock therapy at 120,000 joules.