(VINnews) — Rabbi Yitzchak Reichman appeared on Dovid Lichtenstein’s “Headlines” podcast to discuss the Shidduch Crisis. Rabbi Reichman was representing NASI, the North American Shidduch Initiative, which, among many other missions and programs, has spent many years working to close the ‘age gap’.Join our WhatsApp group
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Rabbi Reichman was asked if eliminating the so-called Lakewood BMG “freezer” would help solve the problem.
He replied. “The freezer itself is three months, of course lowering the age gap by 3 months would be helpful, [but] it is not a solution. Since it is a 3-4 year gap, it needs more than that.”
Rabbi Reichman explained the wide-ranging benefits of the longtime Lakewood yeshiva policy. “The freezer…is for the toeles of the boys’ learning and even for shidduchim. And most boys accept this. To take a few months and have a good foundation, to be able to be osek in shidduchim from a stronger place.”
He added, “Whenever this issue of the freezer is brought up, the answer always is, it is not really a solution, we need to think bigger.”
He also observed that the boys could come earlier and enter the freezer, since it is built into the system, and thus the freezer itself is not the factor.
Lichtenstein asked Rabbi Reichman if numerically speaking, there are girls who simply do not have a corresponding man who has never been married, for example, a lady in her fifties who has never been married.
Rabbi Reichman replied, “There definitely are women who are reaching middle age–there are not enough unmarried men in the community for them. That is a fact. Sometimes they go out of the community….Sometimes there is a situation of a zivug sheini. In terms of zivug rishon within our community, the numbers make it very difficult”
Listen to the audio discussing the freezer:
Discussing whether there are numerically enough men in our community:
Rabbi Reichman was asked how he knows there is a shidduch crisis, and responded by going through both the statistical and anecdotal evidence, which sadly, many or most members of the Charedi community are enormously aware of.
Listen to his response here:
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Rav Reichman is a former Rosh Chaburah in Lakewood, and former Magid Shiur in Yeshiva Heichal HaTorah. He is currently a Rebbi in Yeshiva Shaar HaTorah.