Jerusalem – A man is seeking a divorce on the grounds that life coaching sessions turned his wife into a tyrant.
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“My wife turned me into a slave,” the man said in a divorce request filed with a rabbinical court, reported Friday.
“She became even more authoritarian after undergoing life coaching sessions,” he said.
Life coaching, which aims to help individuals determine and achieve personal goals, is increasingly popular in Israel.
Nebech!!??
Huh , just say NO,
I can say NO when she permits me.
when ar people going to realize the can only be boss amongs two people?
if they make that grounds for divorce. all men will file.
Welcome to marriage!!!
look maybe after taking life coaching lessons she realized that he was a “bully” and refused to be bullied! You always have to hear both sides. As a social worker I have seen numerous times marriages where one partner has low self esteem and lets themselves be stepped on and when they get help for themselves, they learn how to stick up for themselves. Well maybe this lady, just maybe had “enough’?? so we really have to hear her side of the story….
my heart goes out for this man
my heart goes out for this man
Something’s weird with that story. Life coaching is very big in Israel, because most Israelis don’t want to go to a therapist, but a life coach is different (it is). However, if someone needs a phsychotherapist that’s who she should be going to.
There are 3 people in this story: 1. Husband isn’t being totally honest. 2. Wife had problems to start with – she needs more serious help. OR 3. Life coach is indeed incompetent/irresponsible and should switch careers
Hmmmm…I wonder why she felt the need to get life coaching sessions….
Hmmmm…I wonder why she felt the need to get life coaching sessions….
Message to the man: Walk out the door! She will get the hint real quick!!
my wife is never wrong.she once thought she was but that was a mistake ,til she went the wrong way on on a one way, oh vah
There is a story about a couple that was happily married
until the miracle worker cured the deaf husband and he then started to hearing all of his wifes complaints that he couldnt hear when he was deaf. When the husband went back to complain to the miracle worker that he wanted a divorce because he couldn’t stand all the complaints, the miracle worker made him deaf again – and the couple continued to live happily ever after.
I know exactly how he feels. I’m exactly in the same boat. my wife is a complete tyrant as she rants and raves and rules over myself and the kids . I’m literally trapped, not interested in badmouthing her as she is a good person to the outside world and a tremendous baal chesed. I’m not interesetiñg in divorcing her and losing my children so I just sit and swallow it in silence. ladies , if you are reading this and you may be even somewhat like this , know that you are causing your spouse a life og gehenom . and for all those who’s say stand up to her , I’ve tried that and it just exaserbates the problem .
Reply to #19 : Chesed begins at home! By the way I’m curious, when did she begin acting this way? Also exacerbate is spelled with a c. Also, who earns the living and does your wife also not want a divorce? If she wants to remain married, then you can have a lot of leverage.
Im assuming its popular among Charedi/Orthodox women, because many of them find themselves in dead end lives, after getting married at a young age, having many children very quickly, and then find themselves unable to progress and find any sort of satisfaction outside of their duties as wives and mothers. I bet you the Rabbanim will soon prohibit women from getting Life Coaching.
In Hamodia this week there was a very interesting Q & A in Rabbi Dr. Twersky’s column about men who make their wives cry. I showed to my husband. He upsets me a lot, but i’m no picnic either. Most of the time things are fine but we’re only human so yes, we can make each other unhappy but we work on ourselves. One thing we always do is share decisions. He doesn’t wear the pants and I don’t either. we always work it out even after a fight. It’s called compromise.
Marriage shouldn’t mean bullying your husband or wife.
What exactly is a life coach? How is it different from a therapist?
Sounds like a fancy term for Bondage and Dominance.
she was like that since we got married. yes initially she was the main breadwiner and yes she only wants to stay married b/c of kids . any suggestions? but no she’ll never ever agree for counseling as she feels she knows better than them and yes sometimes in my blackberry I misspell sorry .
I was once like you.I thought life couldn’t get worse. But I was not gonna give up and then I discovered the answer to all my question it was like water to a parched soul.Its called the “Garden Of Peace” Its hard to believe so mcu Emmes can be in one book. I never imaginedi would have such a happy marriage as I do now. If you want true happiness in your life read this bood. Its written by Rav Shalom Arush and translated into english by Rabb Lazer Brody. I have heard that litterally thousands of marriages were saved because of this book. May we see a time when there will be Shalom. Within all of Yisrael. Amen!
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thanks for the chizuk, but with my wife either its her way or no way . i’ve chosen to just suffer in silence . like the earlier post said I’d rather have my gehenom in this world. my wife is stuborn, is not interested in changing and i’ve accepted my fate fro h-shem , I’d love to go to a counselor but I can barely pay tuition and mortgage and the cheap ones I’m too scared of messing up my life more .
why is everyone writing about the women who destroy marriages? im b”h happily married, but i know, oh too many stories of divorce because the husband was an idiot!
Reply to #3 It is totally not popular among frun woman to behave this way. Even though we marry young and yes put in lots of overwelming hard work, we do find outlets to relax and that s not on the expense of the spouse. You seam to envy our growing families.
This article only brings the mans side, although sometimes the wife can be a real witch, but many times the husband is a devil and a snake.
I have a cousin, he ran around to Rabbonim complaining on his evil bad wife, it tirned out that he is such a dictator and manipulator, and used to abuse his wife mentally and psychologically, and his wife is secretly going to psychologists and therapists so she she won’t get a break down and go off her mind.
After a years long fight in din torah, and after this rosha (my cousin) refused to give a get, they’re finally divorced.
ezer kenegdo – what is pshat? The is helps the husband by being kneged him all of the time she pushes him to the bes medrash and helps his learning.
Reply to #30 : My suggestion is that since she wants to stay married for the children, you should threaten to leave her unless she mensches ois! This is assuming you tried the positive approach of showing her love and she remains an incorrigible shrew. Ki motze ani es haisha mar mimaves!
Therapy is most definitely worth a shot, divorce even with little fighting creates many new situations to deal with, (if a spouse is hard to work with in marriage can you imagine in divorce) for many people there comes a time where we want love, friendship, compassion, and a togetherness which we know will not happen with our current spouse (sometimes never truly had it ) that we only have a shot at through divorce.
Get a therapist by asking around from people you know, do not stay with a therapist if you feel you are not getting much from it after 8 sessions.
Shloime hamelech said “Isha raye maare movez” but this type you should have enough seichel to recognize at the time of the tnoyim.