by Rabbi Yair Hoffman
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It was a very successful Israeli Seminary with several hundred students and a great reputation. To the consternation of its hanhallah, however, one of the teachers did not send her own daughter to that seminary. The hanhallah posed the question to Rav Elyashiv zatzal: Since they employed the young lady’s mother – could they force the daughter’s attendance to their own seminary?
Rav Elyashiv zt”l’s answer appears in Mishnas Ish Volume I Siman 286: His response was transcribed from a tape recording and reviewed and annotated by Rav Yitzchok Zilberstein shlita. The sefer has a haskamah from Rav Azriel Auerbach shlita.
“I don’t understand how it is possible to do this at all. If they [the parents] feel that the young lady soes not fit to the seminary – she must go to the other seminary. What is the travesty here? There are situations where the parent feels that her daughter does not fit well here. So then they will fire her? I don’t understand.
Unless the situation is such that this seminary and the other one are the same, and she prefers the other one – which can be understood as if she does not appreciate the importance of the education in this seminary and her daughter requires a better chinuch. For this, it requires the determination of a Talmid Chochom to determine why she is not sending her daughter to the one where she works at, if there is a good rationale to her reason or not. But simply to make a rule that if they do not send there they will be fired – this is not the derech.”
Translator’s note: It would seem that this same situation applies to a boy’s chinuch as well. As far as the Talmid Chochom who would make the determination it is likely that they should both agree as to who that person would be.
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I tried sending my kids to places that was good for them even though other kids were in other places.
When the administration found out they kicked my kids out.
sch m*cks.
The statement I hoped to see isn’t here.
The decision for employment and the decision for a child’s chinuch are unrelated. Yeshivos are here to provide Torah chinuch, not advertising fir the yeshivos. Confusing the purpose renders the operation seriously questionable. Why should these yeshivos exist altogether?