ENGLAND (VINnews) — A shocking story has surfaced of a secret trip by the Chief Rabbi of the UK, who flew to Austria in 2018, trying to help a desperate mother reunite with her young children.
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Beth Alexander, age 37, has tragically only seen her now 12 year-old twin boys once in the past five years. Her ex-husband has refused to let her visit, and he severely limits their phone time. The Austrian courts have repeatedly blocked her attempts at visitation rights.
Since 2016, she has only been with her sons once–a short, supervised visit last year that was “very traumatic, very painful”. As reported in the Chronicle, “They were a bit estranged from me,” she said. “I cried my eyes out when I left, it almost broke me.”
Ms. Alexander feels that the Austrian Jewish community has always sided with her ex-husband, Dr. Michael Schlesinger. She has tried desperately to get the courts to grant her custody, however all her attempts have been unsuccessful. Recently, she used a different approach, and was quite hopeful the courts would grant her request.
However the court completely denied her request for contact with her children, leaving her devastated. The British Jewish community has responded to the news strongly. A Facebook group in support of Ms. Alexander attracted 4,000 followers in just six days.
As reported in the Jewish Chronicle, after hearing about her struggle in 2018, Rabbi Ephraim Mirvis took the enormous step of personally traveling to speak with the boys and appeal to community leaders, hoping his presence would achieve the improbable.
Rabbi Mirvis brought a secret group to Vienna, assessed the children’s wellbeing, and sent pictures to Ms. Alexander. According to the report, the Rabbi asked to meet Ms Alexander’s ex-husband, but his offer was declined.
He and his delegation met with Rabbi Biderman and other community leaders, urging them to push the local Jewish community to pressure Dr. Schlesinger. Although they appeared sympathetic, they said that there was nothing they could do.
After the trip, the group continued to lobby the boys’ father and community to secure visitation for their mother, with little progress. Ms. Alexander kept the negotiations under wraps for years, because she felt that it was inappropriate to publicize. However with her frustration growing, she has decided to go public
Rabbi Mirvis was quoted by the Chronicle as saying that the “latest setback adds another layer to this long standing injustice.”
The Vienna court ruled that Ms. Alexander did not have a right to see her children, even if she came to Austria. The judge claimed that contact with their own mother is “not in the best interests of the children”, because they had “developed a decisive willingness against such contacts, as well as against holiday contacts in Austria”.
The judge cited Ms. Alexander’s assertion “that this willingness is influenced by the father and his family”, but concluded “that the children have based their opposition on their real experiences”.
Ms. Alexander says that she will continue to fight for the right to visit her children.
For every Beth Alexander there are over 100 men in the same position. Yet when it is the mother in this position, suddenly we hear all the sympathies, with even the Chief Rabbi of England personally intervening. Yet, for the thousands of men in the same position as Mrs. Alexander, the Chief Rabbi and others offer no personal help.
I know of 3 jewish men denied seeing their children or alienation. Since the mothers claim abuse or mental illness the kids don’t even know their grandparents names
Something is missing from this story.
There are bad men and there are also bad women. It’s hard to say which scenario is more common but since the women usually end up with the kids it’s usually the mom who has the ability to influence the kids and speak badly about her ex. That said, I know a woman personally who made every effort to never speak badly about her ex. She knew her son needed a father. Yet her son hated his father terribly. Could it have to do with the fact that he wouldn’t pay child support even though he had plenty of money? This boy never had what he needed. They had to live off her salary and charity and Shabbos boxes. Could it be that his father would often cancel visits last minute when his son was packed and waiting for hours? Could it be that his father never said a kind word? Always put him down? Well now he’s 18 and not interested in having anything to do with his dad….
I think in the end of the day, kids grow up and most can figure out the truth of what went on themselves. If the mom kept them away from a half decent father, they will resent her for it.
This judge is just as cruel and evil as this so called “father”. They are both monsters!!
Something is missing in this story. Are one of the parents not religious. Usually the courts are against the men as they are pro feminist unless woman has a mental problem. Something in this story is not adding up.
But WHY was she denied custody in the first place?
I don’t see the significance in this story, as there is very little info on why she is denied to see the kids, what I do know is that many agunot, the reason of refusal to give a get, is because they were treated horrible right in the beginning of the breakup, having to fight in court for every 1 hour visit, that builds up a very hostile environment, where everything is a fight, and when she sees she’s doomed, she gives up custody, but it’s too late
Really. Perhaps it’s time for these men to
Man up And take responsibility. In most cases they’ve treated their wives and yes children horribly. Sorry give her her freedom snd stop your games