The Hijacking of Rav Moshe Feinstein zt”l

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By Rabbi Yair Hoffman for 5tjt.com

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Someone once said that we are in desperate need of a “Jewish Snopes” right now.  That person may be spot on.  Here is why.

There is a story that is circulating the social media about Rav Moshe Feinstein zt”l.  A popular Rebbe friend of mine tells me that it was forwarded to him by a number of Yeshiva Rebbeim and other people as well.  These were people from all different walks of life.  This author has spoken to Rav Moshe zatzal’s Talmidim, Gabbaim, and family members.

Conclusion? The story never happened, and is completely false – from A to Z.

LOADED QUESTION

But before we get to the actual story, there is an important piece of information that is described by Douglas Walton, in his 1989 book entitled, “Informal logic: a handbook for critical argumentation (Cambridge University Press).”  Walton describes the idea of a loaded question asked in a “yes or no” form.  The purpose of it is to serve the writer’s agenda.  It is both manipulative and Machiavellian – placing the person on the other side of the question – in a no-win situation.  All to serve and promote the agenda of the person asking the question.

An example is, as follows:

“Answer, yes or no!  Have you stopped beating your wife??”

One cannot answer, “yes” or “no to such a question – because either way, one is stuck. If one answers yes – the indication is that he used to beat his wife. If he answers no – then the indication is that he has not stopped and continues to beat his wife.  The optics are bad.

It seems, to this author, that there are three components of a loaded question:

  1. It serves and promotes the author’s agenda.
  2. It is difficult to work around the charismatic questioner’s demand.
  3. The optics are bad.

KORACH

Those familiar with Midrashim and Rashi are also well aware that Korach also posed questions to Moshe Rabbeinu that were, in fact, loaded questions.  Does a garment made of fabric entirely died blue tcheiles require Tzitzis?  Does a room filled with Torah scrolls require a Mezuzah?

These questions, as well, served the agenda of Korach – to place the leadership of Moshe Rabbeinu under question – so that he, “Korach – the man of the people” could take over.   All this, of course, is brought by the Midrash to understand the use of the term “Vayikach Korach – and Korach took.”

The meaning of the term is just as it is in contemporary usage.  “I got taken recently.”  The Midrash is telling us about the manipulative methods of Korach.

It is devious. Manipulative. Scheming. And, oh yes, wholly unscrupulous.

  • Did Korach’s question and presentation serve to promote his agenda? Most certainly.
  • Was it difficult to work around Korach’s demanding questions? It would seem so.
  • Were the optics bad? Yes, they were.

WHAT ABOUT A LOADED STORY?

We now have two questions.  Is there also such a thing as a “loaded story?”  And what would such a story be?

A loaded story is one that shares the qualities of a loaded question in that it serves the author’s agenda.  The optics are bad.  And it takes great effort to disprove.

Let’s look at each element.  Rav Moshe Feinstein zt”l is the Gadol haDor.  His view in halacha is that one may not even shake hands with a member of the opposite gender. He considers it dvarim shel chiba – halachically forbidden. But his world view is that dedication to Halacha – is the fulfillment of the Ratzon Hashem.  Rav Moshe Feinstein zt”l was the living example that we can and do develop a dveikus to Hashem by fulfilling halacha – the ratzon Hashem.

THOSE WHO THINK DIFFERENTLY

There are others, of course, who think differently.  They think that it is okay to kiss women and to kind of let halachic devotion play second fiddle to social niceties.  It is all okay, as long as the heart is in the right place.

Now, the question is, how can the portrait of Rav Moshe Feinstein zt”l be hijacked?  And how can it be hijacked in a manner that places anyone who questions the integrity of the story in a bad light? In short, how can the high-flying life, replete with hugging and kissing celebrities and others, be justified?

How can Machiavellian, Korachellian techniques be employed to further this agenda?

So let’s create a story involving holocaust survivors – with some element of truth to it, because all lies employ some sort of truth, wherein Rav Moshe Feinstein zt”l allows for the dropping of halachic norms – because, of course, his heart is in the right place.  Anyone who questions the story – is in for some pretty bad optics.  “How dare you question this!?  Of course – it is true! And how would you know anyway? You weren’t with Rav Moshe all of the time!”

Since we are fast approaching Pesach, perhaps a good way to start is by asking four questions:

  1. Did family members or those who drove and or accompanied Rav Moshe zt”l know or hear of the story?
  2. Are the logistics really plausible? Does the time frame work?
  3. Are the behaviors of the people involved in the alleged story within the norms?
  4. What is the provenance of the story – does the origin involve someone with a track record for integrity or for manipulations?

The story involves a 13 or 14 year old boy allegedly witnessing his non-frum aunt kissing Rav Moshe Feinstein at a doctors office, and Rav Moshe telling the young man right afterward that it is okay because she is a holocaust survivor.

So let’s go one by one.

  1. No, they didn’t know it or hear about it, until it was published in 2009. At that time, all family members that were asked about it said that it just didn’t happen.
  2. The logistics are somewhat plausible. But the dates do not really work out. Before 1971, Rav Moshe Feinstein zt”l did not go to Camp Staten Island in Kahungston, but he did go to a place called Masten Lake. The age of the psychologist does not really work out, however, to place it during this time.  Later, when Camp Staten Island originally rented their current facility near Elenville and (then purchased it outright from the owner) the family members who took care of him would have known the story.   When Rav Moshe’s health was compromised later on – doctors came to the camp with all they needed.
  3. No one would have kissed Rav Moshe on the cheek, no matter how irreverent they might be. Also the other details are just not plausible.
  4. Unfortunately, this psychologist is well known now as a master manipulator – bilking his patients out of millions of dollars and is the subject matter of a horrific documentary type series entitled “The Shrink Next Door” as to how he manipulated a patient – taking over his patient’s Hampton home, manipulating him into not talking to his relatives, and making things appear as if the true owner of the home was the gardener – and he was the owner.

BUT WHY NOW?

The story was originally printed some 12 years ago.  Why is it being rehashed now?  One possibility is that it is in reaction to investigations currently being conducted as a consequence of allegations brought forth by a victim of the celebrity – psychologist.  If the story of his “connection” and “insight” into Rav Moshe and how he grew up among holocaust survivors comes up again – well, this might help his current predicament.

CHOMETZ REPRESENTS THE YETZER HARAH

This doctor allegedly nicknamed the victim “an Easy Mark.”  Let’s make sure that we aren’t easy marks as well. The Nesivos Shalom explains that just as we must clean our homes from any vestige of Chametz – we must also clean ourselves from any vestige of the yetzer harah.  The yetzer harah tries to take us away from becoming close to Hashem. When it comes to attempts to undermine our halachic norms, we must all be super vigilant.

The author can be reached at [email protected]


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my real name
my real name
3 years ago

I have no idea whether there is any kernel of truth to the story or not. But a few points:

Rabbi Hoffman brings Rav Moshe’s psak forbidding even the business-like shaking hands with women. Fine. Rav Moshe was one of the greatest poskim of his generation, and if that’s what he held, then that’s what he held. But Rabbi Hoffman paints other poskim who may have held differently with regard to handshaking in a business setting as “others, of course, who think differently. They think that it is okay to kiss women and to kind of let halachic devotion play second fiddle to social niceties. It is all okay, as long as the heart is in the right place”. That’s not very honest.

Also, regarding the story itself, I have heard a different version of the story – which could very well not be a true story at all – but in the telling that I heard, the point wasn’t that Rav Moshe was matir the woman’s action. Not at all. The point was that Rav Moshe felt in the moment that it was not appropriate to berate the woman for an action that was done already and that she meant no harm by, ESPECIALLY in view of the suffering she had suffered as a Holocaust survivor. That would be a true mussar even if the story was completely made up.

Kollelfaker
Kollelfaker
3 years ago

While in bais medrish ( mtj) many things where said by outsider in the name of rav Moisher great men are targets snd once false stories circulate they are hard to put out the fire

Doubt its a made up maisah
Doubt its a made up maisah
3 years ago

I heard this story told over on a dvar torah recording from Rav Aryeh Lebowitz, the Mara D’atra of Beis Haknesses of North Woodmere and a big Talmud Chochom. I have a hard time believing he would tell it over before first researching the accuracy and truth behind the story. Perhaps the author of this article can reach out to him and discuss the accuracy of this story.

Zalman
Zalman
3 years ago

Just to point out that the story as told does not state that Rav Moshe said “it was ok because she was a Holocaust survivor.” The story merely states that when the boy started to feel self consicous about his irreverant aunt, Rav Moshe said, “She’s a holocaust survivor, she’s holier than me.”
Whether the story is true or not, it doesn’t in any way suggest any kind of leniency at all, it merely suggests a tremendous amount of Ahavas Yisroel and the recognition that even irreverent Jews have maalos and can be respected.

Moderate Munch
Moderate Munch
3 years ago

The logically true answer to “Have you stopped beating your wife?” is “no”. It may imply that you used to beat your wife, but it doesn’t actually mean that.

Anonymous
Anonymous
3 years ago

Snopes is a left-wing provocateur with an agenda and its not the truth. Regarding Rav Moshe and this story, most gedolim stories are bubbeh maasehs and should be regarded as such.

Last edited 3 years ago by Anonymous